Persistence

I got the same e-mail from a guy on Plenty of Fish three times. The third time, I decided to give him a proper brush-off, since not responding wasn't getting the job done. Here's how things went down:

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Him: Hey , how are you doing?

Me: Thanks for the e-mail, but I don't think we'd be a good match. Good luck in your search!

Him: what would make you think that.. why do you say that? Intelligence, humor..the biggest percentage of what u said you are looking for... i fit..curious..lol

Me: I just don't feel like we'd be a good match. Sorry.

Him: ok ... cool... i was just asking why.. not that u have to explain.. just wanted to know why u think we ar enot a match.. i wouldn't offended...but i was just asking because according to your page we area match..lol. if it is looks. that s understandable or if it is because i am latino that is fine an understandable.. nothing wrong with it.

Me: It's not because you're Latino. I just don't feel like there could be a connection. Good luck.

Him: LOL ok.. ok.. i was just asking WHY do you thin there would not be a connection? What about my page says that.. and how would u know if you have never talked to me before. I am a very good connector...lol and I also am a good moral and Godly man who is considerate of others...what triggered u to say or think we wouldn't connect is what i am asking? do u just randomly choose who think won't connect ..i mean u don't know me to know if we would connect... curios.. curiosity killed the cat.. but the satisfaction brought him back..lol

Him: hey give me a chance.. be a good friend.. and see

Me: Although you are a nice-looking man, I am not attracted to you. Good luck with your search.

Him: OK.. see that is what i was looking for... i can work with that...BUT could we be friends...

Him: also let me ask you this.. is that because you think I am a player.. some women say they think i am a player just based on how i look.. which is actually not possible to tell and is not true... i am not a player..just so u know

Me: It has nothing to do with that.

Him: cool.. but u never answered my question about friends?

Me: No answer is often its own answer.

Danar and the Latest Potential Suitors

I know you're all dying to know what the latest in the dating world of Danar is. I had interest on OK Cupid from one fella who seemed decent, though I detected a potential for clinginess. Turns out he'd seen me at the Fazoli's I frequent, and he suggested "coincidentally bumping into each other sometime." Because I'm never there without my mother, and because there are managers who would give me a hard time about meeting a guy there, I vetoed his idea. His next suggestion? Meeting up at the Olive Garden so he could -- wait for it -- use a gift card he'd received. FAIL! Not only was I turned off by the suggestion of having a gift card used on me on a first meeting/date/whatever, but I was repulsed by the idea of going to the Olive Garden, which is THE most generic restaurant I can think of, including Applebee's. I don't get the appeal at all. I ended up letting the guy down easy by telling him I didn't think I was in a frame of mind that would allow me to pursue a possible dating situation. At the time, that was true, and to some extent, it still is. I've since been communicating with a geography professor at KCTC. It's going well, though his e-mails are kind of formal. I guess that's what you get when you're e-mailing an educator. Dude needs to have a beer and loosen up a bit, though.